You probably notice how your mood changes throughout the day. Do you think it's the events in your life that change him? But no. We broke up with our loved one and fell into depression. They gave you a gift and you were happy. How to realize that your life depends on your thoughts and experiences? I continue to share new knowledge gained as a result of retraining in the CBT program. The term itself (cognition) tells us that the solution to psychological problems occurs through a change in attitude towards life and to yourself. In CBT there is an A-B-C formula, which contains your life cycle of response to problematic situations, where A is an event, B is thoughts about the event that happened, associated with intermediate and deep-seated beliefs, C is reactions, c including emotional and physical states, behavior. The basis of therapy is the belief that it is the thoughts associated with a particular problem situation that cause negative feelings and experiences in us. That is, it was not the stressful situation itself that led the person to become upset, anxious, or angry, but rather his thoughts about this situation. The goal of therapy is to change a person’s thoughts and attitude towards various events. As a result of such work, a person’s emotional state is leveled, he changes his view of events and ceases to experience strong emotional experiences. It must be said that CBT cannot guarantee a 100% solution to your problem, but that after a few sessions you will feel relief and a decrease in emotional stress - That's for sure. Perhaps you will completely solve your problem, or maybe you will completely want to change your life and become a happy person. Who knows, the choice is yours. It has long been noted that the same event can cause different feelings and emotional states. For example, you are a driver and are driving your car. Suddenly another driver cuts you off. You may experience different states: Negative experiences from mild irritation to feelings of rage. At this moment you may have thoughts: “How dare he! He’s completely insolent and doesn’t respect anyone on the road”, “He didn’t even turn on the turn signal and is breaking the rules!”, “What if I hadn’t braked in time and there was an accident?”, “Oh, he’s impudent, you asshole (any other swear words, even obscene language)." Neutral position and neutral experiences. At this moment you may have thoughts: “This is a common situation on the road,” “I sometimes cut off too,” “It’s okay,” “I have Today I’m in a great mood and I don’t care about his behavior,” “Everyone acts according to the best of their upbringing.” A friendly, understanding, sympathetic reaction, so to speak. At this moment you may have thoughts: “Maybe the person is in a hurry to get to the airport,” “ What if his wife gives birth?” (at the same time he recalls how he himself was in a hurry to the maternity hospital when his wife gave birth). “To be in a hurry is an important matter.” Worries are more associated with thoughts about the other person than with concentrating on one’s feelings. A person can mentally wish him good luck or sympathize with him. Experiences associated with feelings of guilt. At this moment you may have thoughts: “Oh, I was probably distracted and didn’t notice the driver,” “I’ve only recently been driving and I feel so insecure.” , “Maybe I missed a sign calling me to give way?” Usually such thoughts come to the minds of insecure people. Experiences associated with fear. At this moment you may have thoughts: “There are so many dangers on the road! I won’t drive again!”, “I almost dropped the steering wheel from fear!”, “How scary it is to live! (from Galkin’s repertoire about Renata Litvinova).Alternatively, you may have a desire to judge and associated experiences: “Why is he allowed to be so reckless on the road, but I’m not?”, “We must follow the rules and drive carefully, I I comply,” “It’s wrong to drive like that!” Such reasoning