From the author: A holiday romance - a feeling of boundless happiness, dates lasting the whole day and night walks under the whisper of the waves. But the weeks of vacation fly by like one day, and you say goodbye, barely holding back your tears. Perhaps this is the last time you see each other, and in the future our destinies will never intersect again. Or maybe everything will be the other way around? An article from my training book “10 Steps to a Successful Marriage.” In the work of a psychotherapist, there is a peculiar seasonality; the topic of holiday romance comes up mainly in the autumn months. In this article I will share my experience about “resort romances”. In this article we will talk about the side of a woman. The word “romance” comes from the word “romance”. That's why romances most often happen at resorts, where everything is conducive to it - full service, the sea, the moon; you don’t need to go to work, take care of your neighbors, and think about tomorrow. At this moment, a man often appears next to you, he gives you the first compliment, helps you bring your bag, then you yourself are looking for a meeting with him, not knowing why you need it... and here it is, the first kiss, a sweet night whisper and... the holiday romance has begun. Then, in most cases, history repeats itself: the woman suddenly remembers that the day after tomorrow is the last day of her vacation, and begins frantically looking for a solution - “what to do?” She is waiting for an answer from the man, but he pretends that everything is fine. Goodbyes, sometimes hard, sometimes quick. Perhaps this is the last time you see each other, and in the future your destinies will never intersect again. I desperately don’t want to believe this. So we don’t believe it! And we secretly dream that someday we will be together, get married, and live happily - like in a fairy tale... But a fairy tale is a fairy tale, and life is life. Why are holiday romances dangerous? When you come to a resort, you can plan that any relationship will only be temporary. But a person is not an insensitive program, we fall in love and lose our heads! We, of course, think that we are fully aware of what is happening, but then at the most unexpected moment we realize that our feelings have prevailed over the voice of reason. Driving around our cities, we are tormented by the question - what will happen next? Let's consider the most common options for “resort romances”. Both are free and want to continue the relationship. The best option for developing further relationships and starting a family is one where two are free and not tied by marriage. A wonderful opportunity to continue the relationship and create a family, of course, provided that both parties want to continue. Difficulties usually arise due to the fact that you live in different cities (and often in different countries). If you are in a serious relationship and starting a family, one of you must agree to move. Who should move depends on your joint decision. Usually everyone already has a job and a social circle. Therefore, the first serious decision is a good test of the maturity of the relationship, because you need a willingness to leave the “habitable” place. At one of the weddings to which my husband and I were invited last year, one couple met just like that - during a summer vacation. If a man is married and a woman is not married, this is a fairly common situation. You have fallen head over heels in love, then such love will bring, in addition to joy, also suffering. As a rule, married men prefer to return to their family home rather than continue their relationship with you. After all, family life requires completely different qualities than romance. According to the observations of psychologists, a woman remembers and experiences memories of her lover for about six months. But in some cases, years pass, but unrequited love remains. The woman is no longer looking for new acquaintances, but lives in a world of memories and hopes that one day everything will happen again. Two people know the rules of the game. Then, in my opinion, this is not a romance at all, but simply entertainment, pleasant entertainment, sometimes even planned. It is impossible to plan real holiday romances - they happen suddenly, as in the song “Love will unexpectedly appear when you least expect it.” Such resort/