From the author: almost a parable about advice. - I want to change the wallpaper in the apartment. Give me some advice, which ones are better to glue? I don’t know which ones to choose? - And you glue the pink ones, with flowers. It will be cute, how beautiful,” suggests a girl with blond hair and in everything pink, looking like a Barbie doll. “Why are you, girl, I’m not building a doll house, why are you measuring it by yourself?” - And you glue the gray ones. It won’t be cool and practical,” says the woman who is afraid to stand out from others. “Yeah, maybe we can cover it with newspaper?” At least there will be something to read! - You, darling, glue the brown ones and put a vertical light green stripe in some places. And frame it with a wooden frame. This style is now in trend - advises a famous designer. - Oh, thank you for the advice! Here is a smart person who immediately put everything in its place. I’ll go to the store to buy!!! In a few days... - I just don’t understand, it looks like fashionable wallpaper, but my soul doesn’t lie, the room doesn’t look like mine. Dear designer, why did you advise me of some nonsense? I generally like the color orange. And also a designer! You designer must understand that someone might like it! - Why did you ask for advice? We would do it as you like - the designer was offended. - I wanted to get some advice, so that they could give me some advice. Eh, I still have to re-paste the wallpaper orange. Are these dialogues similar to those that take place on our forum, in your life? How often did the advice you asked for come in handy, and did you take full advantage of it? I think not everything and not always. Have you noticed that the person asking for advice knew what she wanted, or, in principle, knew about her preferences. But she couldn’t form the full spectrum of her desire. She didn't have enough self-confidence that what she wanted and liked would be appropriate. It is difficult for her to rely on her own opinion and does not like the opinions of others. This is such a vicious circle. But since she still had an idea of ​​what she wanted, she responded to any advice aggressively. What they offered her was not what she imagined. And people can't guess which wallpaper she prefers. And rightly so, because everyone gave advice based on their preferences, and they were very different from the preferences of the owner of the apartment. What am I leading to? Any advice we share is our life experience. And when we are angry that they advise us the wrong thing, that we don’t like everything that is proposed, this means that we know what we want. You just need to realize it, take a risk and do it yourself! Good luck in your achievements!!!