Once upon a time there lived a woman, Lyuba. And she had big problems in her family: with her husband and her daughter, a 12-year-old teenager. I don’t even want to talk about my husband. And she came so that the psychologist could teach her daughter some sense. But the conversation gradually turned to the woman herself. - What? Work with me? “Her face fell, “I brought the child to you!” - Do you remember what I said on the phone? If I see that this is a family problem, I will work with you. And for your daughter, if you want, I can recommend a child psychologist. But until you improve your relationship, don’t expect any significant changes in behavior. Lyuba was irritated, indignant, and responded to every word I said with 100 words, proving that I “didn’t understand” the situation. Why not scold a child, not break in sometimes, not pick him up from school, not let him go out with friends - Well, it’s absolutely impossible! “Let her walk in the yard with our dog, why does she need friends?” I don’t know how we finally agreed on the next meeting. Only later did I find out that Lyuba still appreciated my knowledge of the subject and professionalism, despite the opposite views. But we started working regularly only six months later. Because Lyuba didn’t understand how therapy could help: “I can’t and won’t get a divorce.” Talk to him? I've been trying for 15 years - it's all useless. Why should I study with you? To avoid yelling at the child? Yes, she behaves just like dad. You can't argue with genetics. It was difficult for her to imagine that it was possible to change her inner state from depressed to confident and this would change her whole life. Her relationship with her husband at the beginning of therapy was disgusting. Lyuba acted as a housekeeper: “Bring it, give it, get out of here.” My husband has seen this style of communication with his parents, but he doesn’t understand anything else, and Lyuba is unable to resist. The daughter sees all this, and even the husband enters into a coalition with the child: “Look how nervous our mother is, she needs treatment.” What kind of education and obedience can there be here, when the mother usually cannot say a word. But, as happens in such families, resentment boils under the lid, there is no outlet for irritation. And then some little thing happens - the daughter didn’t wash the cup, the husband went to the toilet with the phone - and the last drop blows the lid off. “How much can you mock me!” - she screams. “BA - BACH” - a volcanic eruption - it splashed everyone with fire, threw stones at them, and covered their heads with ashes. And again all the innocent people sit and bat their eyes: “What did we do?” And the conclusion: “our mother is a fool.” For half a year Lyuba was thinking about whether to come to me or not, for half a year we have been studying... Now Lyuba is actively working in her husband’s company, trying to make it more profitable. Leads in several directions. I began to have money, but before my husband gave me pennies on account. She insisted on transparent accounting - now she knows the turnover at her husband’s company and discusses the main expenses with him. Her husband still tries to troll her, but there are no more tears or explosions. Lyuba can immediately clearly put him in his place if he treated her rudely, or takes a time out. The husband himself comes to reconciliation, and she explains what behavior she expects from him. Without swearing, calmly, reasoned, sometimes - sincerely... - Slowly, but he is changing. And recently,” Lyuba continued with a laugh, “when I turned a deaf ear to his rude demand, he said a little confused and half-jokingly: “Have you completely lost your fear?” We even laughed about it together. I liked the expression! A great summary for our job. We did everything to make her lose her fear of loneliness, rudeness, and injustice. Do you want, just like Lyuba, to step out of the role of a servant, to be able to respond to injustice, to get your husband to listen to you and not brush away flies like he does, to do business and receive gratitude and money for it? Are you feeling bad in your family? Remember, you have a choice. And for the right amount of money you can change your life. Get off the train that is taking you to a dead end - divorce, pain, loneliness in marriage. And in a relationship there is a point of no return when love leaves completely! Therefore, have time to jump into the carriage of another train that will take you to your destination. Unless, of course, you77