Once upon a time, she told me these words. I didn’t understand them, but they grew in me for several years. The same thing happens to those who turn to a psychologist, tired of suffering and grieving. They cry out for help, and then interrupt the therapy. There is still no readiness to understand and realize, but even one meeting can sow a reasonable seed. And it can germinate for a long time, years and decades. I am convinced that there is no need to rush anyone here. Each seed has its own period of maturity. - Do I have to love everyone in order to change my attitude towards this world? Is this what you mean? - Should I be patient? Do you agree with everything? No. This is exactly what you shouldn’t do! - They spoil me, they don’t understand me, they reject me. This world is terrible! No. Not this way. This is your individual worldview and you have your own reasons for this. - Is it just you who is being spoiled? Only they don’t understand you? Are you the only ones getting rejected? - I ask the following questions. These questions encourage you to see other people, to think about what is different for them for some reason. Why? They react differently to what belongs to life. They react differently to what they do not agree with. They do not try to fit events and people into templates, because there are no such templates. Here is a daisy flower growing. Does the thought arise when looking at it: “If only it had wider petals, an orange yellow center, and greener leaves, then I would like it.” We perceive chamomile as nature created it. If you don’t like chamomile, then you will pass by and go to cornflower, which is more pleasant to you. But you will not waste time thinking: “Well, wow! You came across a chamomile, not a cornflower. And why is she white! To spite me! I’ll love you when you turn blue!” Why do all these questions arise when you look at people? To change your attitude towards this world means to change your reaction to events, relationships with people, and not the people themselves. Dissatisfaction gives rise to protest. An unsuccessful attempt to make everyone meet your expectations leads to disappointment. The delusion that it is because of them stops and destroys.© All rights reserved. Reprinting an article or fragment is possible only with a link to this site and attribution. My book "Don't paint me your color." Dialogues with a psychologist. Talks about opportunities to change your attitude towards this world.