From the author: This material was published on the author’s website “Demyanova Science” How to forget a loved one - This topic is very painful for many of us! We fall in love, believe, give birth to children... and suddenly... he (she) says: “Sorry, I’m leaving for someone else!” The world is collapsing, there is fog before my eyes, feelings of emptiness and helplessness! The heart is squeezing into unbearable pain that cannot be survived! Friends console: Time heals, but he (she) is not worth you, everything will pass, you will find yourself better.... And time goes on and on, and it’s impossible to forget him (her). Obsessive thoughts do not give you peace. The image of your loved one eclipses the whole world! And I want only one thing - to be close at any cost! Addiction? Disease? Whatever you call it, these feelings prevent us from living and being happy! How to get rid of this painful state and start living again? Breakups can happen for various reasons. Let's take one option: Your loved one is leaving you, and you want to leave him with all your might, but, alas! nothing works out for you and you have to put up with the inevitable.1. Let's start with a change in attitude towards the problem! We must understand that everything in life flows and changes. You had a period in your life in which this person was present. Let these be pleasant memories of the past. It’s always good when there is something to remember))) But life goes on! That’s why we don’t FORGET, but Push it into the past! Painful separation? – This is something we need to work on. Cope with your shaky confidence and raise (not lower) self-esteem. When a person chooses another, it is not clear that you are worse. Sometimes it is easier to sink to a lower level than to rise to yours. And when another person feels like a hero in a relationship, necessary, smart, in demand, then he strives for this relationship. Nowadays the following statement is very popular, which, as a reason, can also take place: “Many men are afraid of women, whom they need to grow up to, It’s easier to use those to which you can stoop.” We would say the same for women. Or perhaps you have been living out of habit for a long time. And now your partner has finally decided to break this swamp and give you and yourself a chance to start a new life. These are private options. The departure of a loved one also occurs for other reasons... But we will consider them in the materials of the articles “How to save a family.” In the meantime2. Coping with feelings! When there is acute resentment, anger, or, conversely, a positive bundle of feelings, it is impossible to forget. Parting is a small death, it is a loss! You need to suffer, cry. And cry until the pillow is wet, so that all the tears flow out. If necessary, scream, tear out your hair, stomp your feet, roll on the floor... but not demonstratively, but alone. Patience, extinguished and driven inside, unexpressed emotions will serve a disservice in the future. You will either get sick, or become depressed, or... - in this case, you will definitely not be able to cope with the problem! Or better yet, go to a good specialist psychologist or psychotherapist - he will definitely help you get through a difficult period! 3. Filling the void. Learn to live without it, fill your life with a different world! Habit is next to your loved one - it always pulls you back. Thoughts about him, joint plans, meetings, feelings... - all this filled your reality. You have become so accustomed to the lifestyle in which your partner exists that now there is a hole, an emptiness in your heart. And your task is to fill this emptiness. But don’t throw everything into it - just to forget yourself. Remember all your pleasures and hobbies. Shift the center of pleasure - from your loved one to your other hobbies, do more of them and find new ones! Sign up for dancing, fitness, or a gym. Physical activity is very helpful in relieving stress, tension and increasing self-confidence! Pack your day to the limit. Come home tired and with a lot of new impressions!4. Remove all psychological anchors that remind you of the past! Change (or at least rearrange) the furniture and decor. Throw away the things that tell you….