Client case*, complaint: I have absolutely no strength, a feeling of anxiety covers me all the time. I forgot when I was happy. History: 30-year-old girl, married, recently gave birth to a child, difficult relationship with her mother. A change in social status (recent childbirth), in addition, the Client has a great desire to take responsibility even for those circumstances (control of her own mother, an attempt to influence the absence of colic in a child, teething and other children's surprises) that are beyond her control. It is impossible to control and, as a result, a feeling of guilt arises. “It’s my fault, I should have...” and even if this phrase is not spoken openly, it can be traced when talking about oneself. In fact, anything can provoke depression, the situation in the world, the claims of a partner or parents, a change in social status (change of job, marriage, divorce, childbirth, etc.) etc..) In this case, depression arose as a reaction to loss, the loss of the ideal self. Constant soul-searching instead of constructive solutions leads to a worsening of the depressive state. “After all, everything worked out before... I can’t cope and that means I deserve punishment.” And it is very difficult to convince a person in such a state; you often have to work together with a psychiatrist and use medication. How to get rid of depression: The first step, of course, is to accept your condition. As a specialist, it is very important for me to support the person at this time, to give him hope and shift from the question “Why do I need all this or what am I doing wrong” to the question “What circumstances or people that made me feel bad.” In addition, it is necessary to explore the close environment, relationships with significant people, to identify triggers for which the Client reacts and what aggravates the feeling of guilt. Study behavioral strategies, look for similar situations in the past and take them as a support, teach to transfer and not take control (not to fall into the Karpman triangle). Of course, each Client has his own set of tools, since treatment of depression is an individual and comprehensive approach. The main thing is needed To know for a Client in this state, depression can be treated and it is important to remove this unbearable feeling of guilt that causes pain. Are you experiencing difficult emotions and need support? write to me in messenger at +7 985-12-67-446 and I will help you. *Client's consent has been obtained, age and situation have been changed.