In searching for an answer to this question often asked by my clients, I came across two opposing points of view on self-motivation. One: self-motivation is possible and useful in order to accomplish what you plan, in order to go to the intended goal in the shortest possible way, so that the degree of interest in long-term and extensive work is maintained at a high level. Another: self-motivation is nonsense, there is no such phenomenon in nature, but there is a constant choice - lie on the sofa or get up from it, study English or surf the Internet and so on. This is always a choice in favor of something more important: interesting, safe, giving pleasure, comfort, meeting our ideas about happiness. According to the second point of view, self-motivation is an artificial thing. If you have to motivate yourself, it means that what you are going to do is not necessary for you, but for someone else (mom, dad, boss, ...). And if so, then why are you doing what you don’t need? Do what you need and you won’t have to motivate yourself. Based on the first point of view, self-motivation is a worthwhile activity, an excellent assistant in everyday, often uninteresting activities that accompany movement towards a cherished goal. So, self-motivation can be expressed in “before and after” photos for those losing weight or “success stories” of people in the field you are interested in, communication with like-minded people, as well as inspiring and encouraging attitudes like “Everything will be fine. I can do it. I'm coping. I can do it. I'm done! I am worthy....", plus rewarding yourself for achievements, accepting praise and legitimate pride in what you have accomplished. All this helps to move towards the chosen goal during a period of doubt and lack of noticeable results. The second point of view was represented by the following illustration: you want to learn English, but have not yet learned it. Conclusion: you don't actually want to learn it, you choose to do something else when you could be studying the language. Then either accept the fact that you personally don’t need this for anything and get out of the imposed scenario, or use the hint below. What will help translate “I want” into “I have”: - indicate the goal - why and in what time frame you you will achieve it when you realize that you have achieved the goal. - Make a “route” for moving towards the goal - specific steps that will lead you to your destination. - Write down (sketch, stick, etc.) all this on paper and hang it in a visible place place.Yes. Many people know this, but few people combine conscious planning with self-motivation, although nothing is easier)) So, self-checking “what exactly and am I choosing it” will help you start moving in the right direction. And motivating photos, success stories, attitudes, and encouragement will help you keep moving. Thus, while I was writing the article, I realized that both points of view on “getting what you want” do not actually contradict, but complement each other. It’s like two roads to a goal - whichever suits you, follow that one. Have a nice journey! Olga VolginaPsychologist-consultant on personal and family issues8-905-364-1861www.volgina-cons.weebly.com