From the author: The right psychological attitude is an integral part of a successful weight loss process. How to treat yourself so that this process proceeds favorably? “Treat him like an animal - lazy, insidious, unprincipled and cunning. Think of him as a mongrel who is trying to break loose and run away... If you are working for results, the mongrel (organism) needs to be kept on a chain, ideally in a state of stress,” writes Lena Miro in her book “LJ... oops ! Beach uniform is one-two-three.” In fact, when we lose weight, our body “resists” it. He doesn’t intend to lose weight, he’s already feeling good. It’s familiar, calm, comfortable and you want to eat, not exercise. This is understandable and biologically natural. Any organism obeys the principle of homeostasis - the desire to maintain its usual state. But he has no will of his own, no desires of his own. He cannot be “lazy, treacherous, unprincipled and cunning.” Then who is it? And how should we treat it? Obviously, we are talking about some part of the personality that sabotages attempts to limit oneself in food and exercise. There is also a part that wants to lose weight and is ready to make efforts for this. How do you think the first part will behave if the second tells it: “You are a lazy animal, I will keep you on a chain”? Try to put yourself in her place. Nice? Probably not. Do you want to sit on a chain? It’s unlikely, rather, I want to break loose. Which is often what many people who lose weight do. They break down. As if off the chain. After they put themselves on it. They eat to their heart's content after a period of abstinence, stop going to the gym, after a series of exhausting workouts. One part, wanting to lose weight, “keeps it on a chain”, criticizes and scolds the other, unwilling to give up the usual delights of life and waiting to get even. It turns out to be a vicious circle: first one part takes over, then the other, and the cart, that is, the weight, is still there. How to open this chain? Eric Berne's idea that the human psyche has three states: Parent, Adult and Child has become widely known. Let's figure out who is who, with whom we are dealing. So, the part of the personality that wants to lose weight. I will describe a certain generalized portrait. She has a goal, she knows how to achieve it. She is ready to make efforts for this, accept limitations, and overcome difficulties. Looks like it's an Adult. A balanced adult decision is a good motivation to lose weight. The Parent also joins him - he controls, prohibits or allows, forces or persuades, praises or scolds, supports or pushes away. A part of the personality that does not want to endure deprivation. Sometimes, capricious, sometimes, in a bad mood. She wants sweet, salty, fried, floury things. She whines, begs, and, completely desperate, shouts: “Give me!” or “I won’t!” and gets his way. This is the Inner Child. Who deals with children? That's right, parents. Our Inner Parent interacts with the Inner Child on a variety of issues, including the situation of losing weight. When we lose weight, it is difficult for the Inner Child. He is tired and wants sweets, or maybe a kind attitude, he feels bad, and how we react to this state of ours depends on what kind of Inner Parent we have. If he is strict, cruel towards the Inner Child, and ignores his feelings, then we get intrapersonal conflict, constant internal tension. And on the surface there is a swing: control - breakdowns, control - breakdowns. This attitude towards oneself is unproductive and fraught with depression. An alternative to this that breaks the vicious circle is establishing contact with the Inner Child. Good contact (not to be confused with indulgence) with your Inner Child includes: attention to his condition and needs; the ability to negotiate rather than force; acceptance of both positive and negative feelings; the desire to please him in those ways that are available; the absence of meaningless or too strict prohibitions; restrictions in.