From the author: This article is compiled as a generalization of my practical experience, the experience of colleagues and advanced training courses in medical, social and psychological centers. In this article, I tried to get away from the “doom in medical” aspects (may doctors forgive me!) and find reference points in personal human resources, return to the hands of a person at least some piece of power over his life and the ability to care for loved ones. Our natural needs, that is, human needs, lie in seemingly simple things: the ability to breathe freely, eat good food, be able to get help, be free in our judgments and behavior, test ourselves and experiment, live in a cohesive and friendly family, to love and be loved, to have close friends and allies, as well as to be successful and recognized in your immediate circle. This describes the whole essence of our existence in modern history. This system of human life needs was described in detail by Abraham Maslow in his 1954 book “Motivation and Personality” (Motivation and Personality, 1954). A need is a need, an internal state of psychological or functional feeling of insufficiency of something necessary, manifested depending on situational factors . This is a type of functional or psychological need or lack of any object, subject, individual, social group, society, some phenomena of social and psychological life. Being internal drivers of activity, needs manifest themselves differently depending on the situation. Needs can also be a form of our dependence, because without it we feel bad, we suffer. And if we do not have the opportunity to satisfy them - we need to satisfy them - then we experience anxiety, depression, frustration, and anger. And then, in order to balance himself, a person looks for “surrogates” or, in other words, “crutches”. A person goes into the virtual world, where much of what he does not control in his life is under his control, where it is important for him to be “at the helm” and decide something. He wins benefits from those around him “with his fists” through robbery when he cannot get them in the usual – legal – way. He takes revenge on those around him for his misfortune with physical and verbal aggression, needing to be heard when he is not noticed. Gains strength through alcohol and smoking in an attempt to “cloud” painful experiences. Tries to feel successful in gambling. Or he withdraws into himself with the help of drugs. This can be called “exacerbated psychological dependence syndrome.” Psychological dependence is the need for a particular object (person, object, event, internal state) that covers an acute deficit in a person’s life (in love, support, freedom, security, success, approval, inner peace and comfort). Psychological dependence is formed when there is a natural internal need for a means that can satisfy the need. An unmet need or lack of a resource to satisfy it is called “scarcity.” By keeping a person in a situation of failure and suffering, as well as depriving him of natural means of satisfying needs, we (the conditional culprits) provoke a person to search for “surrogates” or “crutches” to compensate for deficits. The choice of a “surrogate” depends on its availability, the availability of information about it and its effectiveness in terms of strength and duration of action. “Surrogates” have, in general, five main functions: systematic support during difficult periods of life; obsession with regularly satisfying chronic needs; letting unresolved problems take their course - aggravation; dependence on “fake” stimulants (dopings); indirect self-destruction (or autosuicide - a series of actions that do not directly lead to death). Among the common “provocateurs” that form “deficiencies” are: Physiological / medical limitations (physical weakness, fatigue, chronic diseases and"