The art of being happy. What does it mean? In any dictionary you will find a definition of the word “art”. Art - experienced knowledge, skills and abilities; something that is done masterfully, skillfully (from art - experience, trial; temptation - test). But what is happiness?! It is difficult to give a definite answer to this question. Why? Because HAPPINESS is an individual state. And everyone has different reasons for happiness. Children have their own reasons, men have their own... And what makes a woman happy? What is HAPPINESS for a woman? Well, of course, to love and be loved. Which woman is your favorite? The one who accepts, appreciates and loves herself. It is imperative to accept, appreciate, and LOVE YOURSELF! Today everyone knows this, but not everyone knows how to actually do it.♥ How to move from a state of “dislike” to a state of “love”?♥ How to accept yourself for who you are?♥ How to harmonize your self-esteem? How to start valuing yourself? And what kind of process is this? ♥ What prevents me from making “reality” a reality? And why does someone accept, appreciate and love themselves from birth, while others have to learn this? I'm sure it's no secret to you that we all come from childhood. And how we go about our first 5-6 years determines how we will treat ourselves, how we will build relationships with the opposite sex and with other people in general. A child coming into this world is like a blank slate, and for him/her parents are a “mirror” through the prism of which she/he perceives reality. If parents love, care for and cherish their daughter (or son), show their feelings and care, protect them from troubles and adversity, the girl (boy) develops the attitude: “I am good! I am beautifull! I am unique! I am worthy of love." If parents don’t do this, everything happens exactly the opposite. Remember how often your parents praised you as a child? How often have they told you that you are the most beautiful, the most charming and charming, the smartest and most wonderful girl? How often have they spoken words of love to you? How often did they protect, reassure, say that no matter what happens, no matter what you do, they will still accept and love you? How often have your parents told you, after another prank, “You’re bad, I don’t love you anymore, go away,” making you believe that your parents’ love is conditional, and you can lose it at any moment? How often have they not noticed your successes, good deeds, efforts, help around the house, taking them for granted? How often have you been criticized, or maybe even called names? (Working with clients, I have come across cases where a mother called her daughter a fat cow in childhood with “the best intentions.”) Think, answer these questions for yourself, they are the reason for low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance and dislike. Another reason for “all this” may be the “victim role” (Karpman triangle), inherited or acquired by free will. Another reason... There may indeed be several reasons, and they can form various combinations, intricate “psychological figures”, and there is no point in listing them all now. But it makes sense to say that any reason for low self-esteem, lack of love and lack of self-acceptance is not a death sentence! This is just a step towards a happy life! Any cause can be “treated” and completely healed. You just have to allow yourself and the magic will happen!