From the author: This material was published on the author’s website Golden Mean! What is this? Something in the middle - drab, mediocre, mediocre? But why then GOLD? Let’s speculate?! Two women met and complained to each other. The first says: “My husband is such a miser, such a miser! He keeps saving money. He only gave me flowers on the first date. I completely forgot about gifts. Our products are the most modest - nothing extra: potatoes, vegetables, and milk! We don’t go anywhere or go on vacation! Clothes to a minimum... And the other says: “And mine is so wasteful, I’m already tired of convincing him! He constantly gives me gifts, both on holidays and on weekdays. He showered me with bouquets. She says that I deserve the most beautiful diamonds and flowers. He loves to travel and have fun. We go somewhere every weekend and vacation... We can’t save up for anything! This is how we live with our parents. That’s how it is! Two sides of one issue - two extremes. There are situations in life when we want to do everything perfectly, we spend a lot of energy and rush from one extreme to another. Sometimes this leads to sad results. And looking back, we can conclude: “It would be better if I did nothing at all!” There are many situations in life in which going to extremes does not lead to the desired result. A balance is needed. In education, the rule of the GOLDEN MEAN is especially important! For example: some parents use methods based on connivance in relation to the child. In this case, the child is left to his own devices and is completely uncontrolled by adults. Its development occurs according to a spontaneous scenario, mainly under the influence of the street. Such children are more likely to experience mental retardation of the psychogenic type. He often grows up disorganized and has few useful habits. The other extreme: parents control every step of their child, do a lot for him, give advice or criticize him for any action. What does this lead to? The child grows up completely dependent, not independent. He does not develop self-control. He doesn't know how to achieve his goal. He chooses a life partner who controls his actions. Although the person himself may not like it, and he resists, makes scandals, but at the same time he never takes an active position in life, but lives according to orders and in the role of a complainer. So a certain balance suggests itself here! Let’s take the relationship between a boy and a girl . At first we dream of unlimited attention from the opposite sex. But when there is a LOT of this attention and it manifests itself constantly, for a long time, we all begin to avoid it! The relationship ends! More often with a lack of understanding of the side that was ready to “give everything for the sake of a loved one.” In psychology, one problem always has two extreme poles. As an example: You have probably noticed that parents who are too neat can have a child who is a complete slob. Attitudes towards cleanliness are formed between the ages of 1 and 3 years. And under special conditions of development, a person develops so-called frustrations, which fix the problem in a certain type of behavior. This can be fixed both in one and in the opposite pole. Manic cleanliness and boundless sloppiness have the same root of the same problem. In the same way, we can talk about other behavioral manifestations of a person, accentuations of his character, relationships with each other and with himself. That is why there are phenomena in life when a person rushes from one extreme to another. It's easy, just one step from love to hate! He does not remove the causes of his internal experiences, he lives with the same problem (thinking that he has solved it) but only in its other pole!!! Important! The rule of the golden mean is not always applicable. In the degree of perfection of the mind, health, leadership qualities, charisma... the principle “the more the better” applies. It is not applicable to geometric parameters either. The GOLDEN MEAN rule is well suited to intensity parameters: very little - little - medium -!