🔺What does it mean to you to be a “good girl”? Write down all the things a “good girl” should and shouldn't do, and then find the pros and cons for each item. For example, she must always take care of family members. This may indeed be the case because you value your loved ones. On the other hand, you don't have to, but you can take care of them if you want to and you have the opportunity. And sometimes you need to take care of yourself, and that's okay. For example, instead of "a good girl should always answer the first call from her parents," you would choose to follow the idea of ​​"I can answer my parents' call if I can and if I want, otherwise I'll just I’ll call them back.” And you have the right to completely refuse those demands that seem excessive to you.🔺What are you doing and why? Why is this needed? For example, you continue to work at a job you don’t like, because your parents think it’s stability, even if they pay you pennies, and your boss is an abuser. But why do you need this? What do you really want? Who would you like to work with? The more you reflect on your habitual actions, the better you will get to know yourself, your needs and what really matters to you. Why do you and others need you to be a “good girl”? For example, it is good to do a spring cleaning every weekend: then your parents and friends consider you a good housewife. But the downside is that it doesn’t bring you pleasure and only takes away your strength. How beneficial is this really for you and your loved ones? Even if they rate you well, what is more important to you - this rating or your own condition? What admires you about “bad girls”? These can be characters from films and books, or real people - girlfriends, colleagues. What attracts you to them, what would you like to be able to do like them? For example, your colleague boldly refuses extracurricular work, despite the fact that her boss threatens her dismiss. A friend who loves her family very much went to study in another country. How could you apply these qualities? This way you will slightly tarnish the impeccable image of the “good girl” and begin to gradually choose what you want. What would you do if you were not attached to this image of the “good girl”? What would you do if you were not dependent on the expectations of others and only cared about yourself? Make a list of what you would like to do differently in all areas of your life. If this is difficult, write at least a few points and stop at this stage. In fact, there are no good and bad people. If you do not act as expected of you, this does not make you bad, it does not characterize your PERSONALITY. When you decide for yourself what is good and bad for you, you create support for yourself. You stop riding the rollercoaster of other people's approval and condemnation and become more resilient. This gives you the inner strength to again and again choose how to live your life, and not follow other people’s expectations. The more you destroy the usual life of a “good girl”, the more you figure out what you want and how to achieve it, the closer you are to achieving it. to live your own LIFE.