From the author: This material was published on the author’s website “Demyanova Science” How to forgive betrayal? If you decided to work with this issue based on the previous material, then we offer you some algorithm of actions. Of the stages presented below, some can be skipped if you were aware of them earlier, and many can be repeated: 1. Discovery: 1) Recognize the fact that the offense took place. Don’t defend yourself from it; 2) Admit that you have anger, aggression, irritation; 3) Realize that resentment wastes too much precious time searching for or punishing those responsible; 4) Admit that you are ashamed of what happened; 5) Realize personal involvement in rehearsing the offense. You think about this a lot; 6) Your understanding that the offended person compares himself with the offender; 7) Understanding the changed views in the world. 2. Decision making: 1) Changing perceptions and understanding that previous strategies for getting rid of resentment do not work; 2) Willingness to consider forgiveness as a preferable choice; 3) Willingness to forgive the offender. 3. Action phase: 1) Reconsidering your own views on the offender and the situation as a whole. Measure yourself in the shoes of the offender; 2) Empathy towards the offender. Understanding it; 3) Awareness of your own sympathy for the offender; 4) Absorption of pain. 4. Result phase:1) Find personal meaning for yourself and others in forgiveness;2) Understand your own need for forgiveness from others;3) Understand the fact that a person is not isolated and many have been in similar situations;4) Understanding - experienced resentment can change your life. And you have the power to change it for the better; 5) Realize and accept that negative feelings towards the offender are already decreasing and positive ones are increasing. How does the person who cheated feel? He can be arrogant, defend himself a lot, blame, pretend that nothing happened or that he is a hero, etc. Everyone manifests themselves in their own way, but in any case there is no winner in such a situation. The question “How to forgive betrayal?” also occurs on the part of the offender. In the next article we will look at the stages of obtaining forgiveness. We are sure that this will be of interest to many! According to the experience of psychological counseling, if one person cheats, for a serious relationship he chooses a partner somewhat similar to the previous one. But he understands this over time. For some, it is enough to understand this in a couple of months, when the passion subsides and the rose-colored glasses fall off. But there is no turning back now. The previous relationship has already been destroyed or the resentment of the parties has made it impossible to continue it. The stubbornness and ossification of both does not allow the mind and imagination to reach a new level of relations and enjoy the joy of communicating with each other! So a person often has to build relationships elsewhere, not out of love, but out of inevitability. Children and loved ones are suffering... Imagine that you have three months left to live! What will you do? Watch the films “Knockin’ on Heaven’s Door” or “Before You Play the Box.” Don’t do nonsense, don’t waste time on stupid revenge. Live and enjoy life! Perhaps with the person who cheated on you and made you look at the world with different eyes! To be continued…