From the author: Good advice to modern Ivan Tsareviches, if you don’t want to go far away, don’t touch the frog’s skin. Everyone knows the fairy tale about the Frog Princess, everyone has read how the fairy tale ended, what path Ivan Tsarevich had to go through to meet Vasilisa the Wise again. I will not describe in detail and deeply the archetypal analysis of a fairy tale; a man or woman does not need it in life. I will describe the process of quarrel and reconciliation using this fairy tale as an example. In youth, a person rarely thinks about what causes quarrels and how exactly we make peace. The older we become, the stronger processes take place in us that direct a person deeper into himself, in search of the real self. Understanding and awareness of the mechanisms that control us come, and it becomes more and more difficult to close our eyes to it, not to notice what is happening, it becomes more and more difficult to reconcile. When entering into a relationship, we meet as a couple, each carrying his own family history. Both men and women have their own scenarios. No matter how we change in relationships, grow up, in stress, conflict, we again become “children”, defend ourselves, attack, run away, go into silence. Of course, this article is only for a certain number of couples, where the man grew up in a family under the influence of negative anima: “without a mother,” “cold, absent mother,” in this case, Ivan Tsarevich grew up only with his father. And where a woman had a difficult relationship with her father, under the influence of a negative animus: (cruelty, aggression, suppression, violence) and also “without a mother”, “a cold, absent mother”, in this case the daughter was turned into the Frog Princess, and if they don’t take her as a wife, they don’t love her like that, she will be a stone... Well, as happens in life, nothing happens by chance. These two are made for each other, and both should follow this path. In such a couple, in a quarrel, almost always, the woman scriptually feels a threat, pressure, a man’s interference in her personal space, just like in childhood from her father. A man, like Ivan Tsarevich, becomes a teenager who feels hunger for love and warmth, which he lacked from his mother in childhood. The woman from this scenario is often ahead of her husband in personal and spiritual development. Internally, she is stronger than her man, such a woman has many tasks according to the scenario. The man is simple and kind. And as simplicity can be, worse... But as you remember, in the fairy tale, she could complete them herself, provided that Ivan is Tsarevich trusted and took her as his wife. He only needed to be patient for three days. Many men sincerely do not understand the long silent periods a woman has after quarrels. At the same time, like the Frog Princess, she is absolutely outwardly calm, and sometimes even cheerful, looks good, does ordinary things. But as soon as a man wants to approach his wife, hoping that her mood is an indicator of readiness for reconciliation, he is waiting for disappointment. The older the woman, the greater the disappointment. Why? Because when you were before the conflict, Vasilisa the Wise was nearby, and now the Frog. And every time you have a quarrel, the Frog is next to you. The question is - who do we take flowers to on the morning after a scandal and, thank God, get it, if not in the face. Who do you want to squeeze or caress in bed, the Frog? The gifts that you want to give to the Frog after a quarrel have no meaning, and their price tag for you will constantly grow. In short, no matter what you do, there will still be a frog nearby, cold and vile, with the same speech and look, in in extreme cases and poisonous. If you want to quickly turn her into Vasilisa the Wise, as Ivan did in the fairy tale by burning the skin, you will get a “big” trip “to distant lands, to the thirtieth kingdom”, you know where.....What to do? Wait. Just wait. Three magical (conditionally) days. What to do these days - live. Give your Vasilisa the time she needs for her recovery processes and finding peace after the storm. The woman herself will come to her senses much faster, Vasilisa the Wise, without your “accelerating” methods. What should you do at this moment? Be in love. To love through actions and care, to be close, to observe, to talk about.