About how to maintain sexual desire for your partner is relevant for many couples who have experienced the initial period of falling in love, goodness and ideality in a relationship. Now about a reason, invisible at first glance, that slowly but surely reduces attraction, passion and desire to nothing in families where a child was born. Young parents, from the very birth of their child, are often incredibly proud of their new status: parents - mom and dad. They really like to hear that sometimes their parents, sometimes friends, doctors in clinics, work colleagues began to call them that. At home, new moms and dads also often want to savor each other’s new “names.” And instead of Kisonka, Bunny, Lapulya, Leva, Lesik i.e. Names and affectionate nicknames in the language increasingly remain “mom” and “dad.” “What did daddy buy for our little one today?” “Mom, where do we have diapers?” “What did our mummy cook so delicious?” “Let’s go.” “Dad, can you help me in the bathroom?” “Why is mommy so sad?” This is how it happens that husband and wife address each other. Moreover, these new roles - mom and dad, penetrate them so deeply that they remain in each other's names for many years. And in vain. Because the verbal designation of our experience unconsciously influences this experience itself. Calling her husband mainly “dad”, “daddy”, “daddy”, a woman involuntarily begins to perceive only this part of her husband - “He is dad. And unconsciously, each of us has a fear and rejection of incest. Wanting a dad is taboo. Dad is loved with platonic love. And with mom it’s the same story. Months pass and the relationship seems to be good in the family. But for some reason, more and more it’s enough just to stroke each other’s backs and babble. Watch a movie together in an embrace (while the baby is sleeping) and go to bed too. I don't want sex. They became relatives. Unconsciously. But this makes it no less real. To prevent such “sticking” from happening, it is necessary to maintain a clear separation of levels within yourself—marital and parental. You communicate with the baby and hear that your husband has come home from work. We say to the child: “Oh, your dad has come! Let's go meet you! " And in the corridor, turning to her husband: “Hello, Darling!” Continue to call each other those nicknames that were so sweet and pleasant before your child was born. Realize that your husband is not your own person! He is a stranger, although close! Where they begin to consider a husband or wife as their own, a loved one, the relationship is usually stable, strong, good... BUT... there is practically no sex in such relationships... Because sexual resonance is only possible with a SOMEONE ELSE's person... Not with a relative .Maintaining a certain degree of tension in yourself from the realization that your spouse, no matter how many years you live with him, no matter how many children you give birth to, can never become your own can be difficult and alarming. But it is precisely this understanding that allows the relationship of two strangers (but close mentally and physically) people - spouses - to maintain and retain freshness, sensuality and sparkle in sexual relationships.