Responsibility is of great importance in life and how you take it or not take it upon yourself affects the quality of your life. There are many areas of responsibility: responsibility in relationships between spouses, friends, responsibility at work, responsibility for doing homework, financial security, responsibility for one’s health, etc. This list goes on and on. Conventionally, any responsibility can be divided into 3 types: Responsibility that you personally bear and no one else (i.e., only you are responsible for the quality of work, errors, non-fulfillment). Responsibility that you share with other people. Responsibility that is borne exclusively by another person and you have nothing to do with mistakes and failures, successes, etc. Do you have a division of responsibility with other people? Do you take responsibility for mistakes made, for not completing work on time, for forgetting something, or do you constantly shift responsibility to another person? Do you always have someone to blame or do you often Are you blaming someone? Or, on the contrary, do you often feel so guilty about yourself? You can do this completely unconsciously, out of habit. Do you recognize yourself in any of the descriptions? What to do in cases where there is a violation of responsibility and how to properly share it? It is very important to understand what is behind your hyper-responsibility or irresponsibility? What does this method give you? Behind hyper-responsibility is most often the desire to control everyone, including the feelings of others, because it is scary to show up, to be as you are. Such control makes it possible to take power into your own hands so that the behavior of other people is predictable. Think: why do you need to control other people like that? What does this give you? What to do if you are hyper-responsible? Be aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it when you begin to shift responsibility to yourself. Remember that you are not omnipotent and can be responsible for your contribution in a relationship, thus sharing responsibility with someone else (the same applies to relationships, any type of activity). If this is a shared responsibility (especially for relationships), then your contribution is 50/50. There is no point in taking 9 steps towards someone if the person has taken 1 steps towards you. Irresponsibility most often comes from infantility, an unwillingness to do something from the position of a child. In my opinion, irresponsibility is sometimes even more difficult to realize and admit. What to do with irresponsibility? Realize in what situations you become irresponsible and why you do it? Return yourself to the adult position that responsibility lies with you. Notice your contribution to negative consequences and admit mistakes. Have the right to unfortunate consequences and to make a mistake. Working with responsibility is hard, painstaking and long work that takes a lot of effort, time and patience. And it is better not to go on this journey alone, but to enlist the reliable support of a therapist. What kind of hyper-responsible or irresponsible person are you? Don't forget to leave a "thank you" and comment if my article was useful to you). Subscribe to me so you don't miss my new articles.