The question of where and how to leave a child is currently very relevant. The severity of the issue is associated with various factors, and one of these factors is deprivation. Perhaps this term does not mean anything to most parents, but every parent knows that when a beloved child has to be left unattended or in the care of “strangers”, children get upset, worry, and after receiving such an experience do not want to be left without the attention of their parents. If we look in the dictionary, we will see something like this definition: deprivation (from the Latin deprivatio - loss, deprivation) is a mental state that occurs when a person cannot satisfy, in whole or in part, vital needs... Deprivation can be sensory (lack of sensations), physical or material, emotional, social. Maternal deprivation is especially identified and studied. Any deprivation harms health, physical and mental, and disrupts a person’s quality of life. The extent of the damage depends on the duration of the deprivation, the severity of the deprivation, and the age at which the person experiences the deprivation. The younger the age, the stronger the violations. In this article we will not consider the problem of abandoned and disadvantaged children, who have been deprived of almost all their needs, but will look at this problem in a completely normal family, where there is a mother, father, perhaps even grandparents, where they love their child and want the best for him . There is a good expression: “any substance can be a medicine and a poison, and only the dose makes it one or the other.” It's the same with needs. It is harmful not to satisfy them, but to satisfy all needs, always and in full, is probably even more harmful for the child, since the experience of needing something is one of the main engines of development. Let's consider different life situations where unmet needs can move from a “developmental need” to deprivation that reduces the quality of life. The situation when the mother goes to work or study early. If a child is under one year old, then he has a great need for the presence of his mother. If a mother at this age leaves the child for a long time (from several days to months), then the child may have problems with basic trust, he may have a feeling that he has been abandoned, is not needed, is not loved. Unfortunately, other people, even if they take good care of and love the child, cannot replace his mother. But for further socialization it is necessary to gradually leave the child with other people for a short time. This will help the child understand that mom has a tendency to disappear and appear. This lays the foundation for patience, faith, and trust in loved ones. When a child grows up and is already more than three years old, he begins to be interested in other people, children and adults. The need for society comes into its own: other people and communication with them. The situation: sending a child to kindergarten or studying at home before school is fraught with contradiction. If a child sits at home and communicates only with loved ones, he may experience social deprivation, i.e. lack of communication and interaction with other people. In the future, this may affect the development of communication and relationship building skills. If a child goes to kindergarten, he may experience deprivation of maternal attention, which he still greatly needs. What to do in such a situation? If your child “stays” at home, arrange for him to communicate with peers and with outside adults. Fortunately, this is not a problem now. If your child goes to kindergarten, make sure that he receives affection and attention from you. Not only care and concern (although this is also very important), but an emotional attitude, sincere interest in what is happening to him. Just don't overdo it. With age, a child should be able to moderate communication with parents. He should have the opportunity to retire, have time for himself. Your child is growing and the question arises whether to leave the child alone at home, at what age, under what circumstances...…