Good afternoon, Dear Friends! We continue to develop the topic of therapy, its stages and how clients perceive it at these stages. Yes, not all stages, as I wrote, follow so strictly in sequence. And at some point, before, after, or during the stage of experiencing emotions (which was discussed yesterday), we find ourselves at the stage or level of transference. This is an important stage. In it, the relationship between the client and the psychologist has already reached such a level when it becomes possible for the client not just to see in the therapist a doctor with a pill or a wizard with a magic wand. He is already beginning to notice, to see in him a person, with some inherent traits and characteristics. They are not always inherent specifically to the psychologist, to the person with whom the client is currently interacting. This is transference, when in a real person we see not something that is truly real, but we attribute something to him from our past experience, past relationships, and so on. That is, we see in him what is actually not there, we think of it on the basis of our attitudes, perception of the world, the same experience of relationships with other people mentioned now. In general, such a transfer is useful. It unloads our brain throughout life. You don't need to learn everything again every time. So we roughly understood that doctors or psychologists are people with a certain character, style of behavior, thinking, and we attribute everything to them the same. Firefighters are brave, policemen are scary, teenagers are hooligans, children are angels and other transfers can be with us. Like, for example, those who say that all people are good and kind. Yes, let's get back to therapy. All the client's feelings that happen during the session will happen in the presence of the therapist. And as the client begins to think, the therapist has some traits that cause such feelings, if they arise with him (!). Here, in addition to working with internal experiences, the client’s discoveries and insights (which I wrote about recently) and the like, it becomes possible to work, which in the language of Gestaltists is called “work at the contact boundary.” During work, analysis of what is happening, it becomes obvious that all these feelings that arose towards the psychologist, in response to the client’s “thinking through”, really have nothing to do with a specific psychologist, a specific person. That is, with what is happening During a session with a psychologist, the client gives rise to different reactions, they, as it turns out during analysis, do not have any real basis, and the psychologist screws up, please forgive me for such a word, for all the people significant to the client. By the way, these can be quite positive reactions. We must not forget that they can also be transference. From love to the desire for revenge, in general, practically. It may even get to the point that the client imagines that he will quit working with a psychologist. I’ll write a little more about this all tomorrow. Thank you for your attention! I look forward to your responses below! If you liked the material, please click on “Say thanks”! In order not to miss interesting things, subscribe to my publications! And please share the material on social networks! :) Sign up for a consultation:+ 7 - 9 6 5 - 3 1 7 - 5 6 - 1 2-