Cheating on a partner for many leads to the most intense inner experiences of which a person is capable. This condition is comparable to the death of a loved one. But many victims of betrayal say that they would have survived the death of their partner more easily, because there is no deception, disappointment, destruction of the idea of ​​two as something integral and inseparable, unsuccessful attempts to return the past relationship... Now we will not analyze the concept itself “ treason”, around which among men there are those who like to separate spiritual and physical betrayal. Each person has his own idea about this, which leads him to a difficult physical and psycho-emotional state. The question is what to do about it and how to survive this situation with the least loss for yourself, for children, if any, and for your partner, which is no less important. The first reaction to a huge loss in life - betrayal by a partner - is shock. “This can’t be!” As he appropriates this information to himself, the person moves to the next stage, when he begins to blame everyone he can for what happened: unfair fate, the partner himself and the person with whom he cheated, his relatives and himself: - Why did this happen? - How could this happen? happen? - Why do I need all this? - He couldn’t do this to me?! - It’s all because of his mother! - What did I do wrong? - Why am I worse? This stage of rhetorical questions and torment can be passed much easier if you defuse negative feelings about your partner in a safe environment, for example, in a psychologist's office. Complaining to a friend over a glass of wine does not bring relief. We need a specialist who knows how to competently accept the client’s feelings and give them a way out, bringing them down not on their loved ones, causing them additional suffering. When the intensity of passions subsides and the mind is freed from emotions, then you can already analyze the situation, if you wish. But why? It's already happened anyway. So the most effective result of going through this stage of experiencing betrayal will STILL be a difficult reconciliation with what happened, forgiveness and expression of gratitude to fate and your partner for the invaluable experience that gave you the opportunity to further develop spiritually. In case of betrayal, people do not always break up. Therefore, if you have forgiven your life partner, you can calmly, without negative emotions, agree on the terms on which you will interact further. Maybe you will find circumstances of coexistence that did not suit both of you, and you will want to change something. At this stage it is also important to seek help from a mediator. Often our emotions prevent us from finding a very simple and easy solution to a problem. A psychologist will help you see the situation not only from the inside, through your eyes, but also to illuminate it three-dimensionally, expanding the possibilities of your interaction with your partner. Together with Yulia Vasyukova